SEPARATION ANXIETY

TODDLER SEPARATION ANXIETY

Are you worried about separation anxiety with your little one?  Don’t be!  It is totally normal. 

Many parents experience extreme clinginess from their toddler around 18 months as well as around 2 years old and this can affect a little one’s sleep. The good news is, this is a phase and it will pass!

HERE ARE 3 TIPS FOR NAP TIME AND BEDTIME:

1. Don’t rush bedtime: Have a solid and consistent bedtime routine, 15-20 minutes max.  Little ones thrive off of predictability and consistency. It is important to continue to have your boundaries and to not give into the “1 more” (it’ll open up a can of worms!)
2. Remain calm: Toddlers can sense your tone and intention. Try to remain relaxed and positive so that your worries don’t rub off on your little one
3. Do not sneak out: This will add to your child’s fears of you disappearing. Lovingly and with a
positive tone say “night night, it’s time for sleep” and let your child see you leave

HERE ARE 6 TIPS FOR SEPARATION ANXIETY WHEN DROPPING YOUR LITTLE ONE OFF SOMEWHERE:

1. Create quick goodbye rituals
2. Be very consistent and avoid change in your routine
3. Attention: give your toddler your full attention when separating. Be loving and provide them affection, but keep it quick and leave regardless of any antics. You want to build trust when you say you’ll return, since you always do!
4. Be specific about your return using language she can understand (don’t say “4pm” because she cannot understand that"). Reference for instance: “after lunch there will be a snack, then some play time, then you’ll line up and get your coats and daddy will be waiting.”
5. Never sneak out: that will cause distrust and can exasperate the issue. Be honest about when you’re coming and going
6. Practice being apart: small stints away from the house with a sitter or grandma where your return is quicker